Taking proper stock of yourself

People say I’m the life of the party Because I tell a joke or two Although I might be laughing loud and hearty Deep inside I’m blue So take a good look at my face You’ll see my smile looks out of place If you look closer, it’s easy to trace The tracks of my tears

William ‘Smokey’ Robinson, June 1965

What are you hiding behind that smile?

We wake up every day, walk the streets and pretend everything is OK. We suffer silently inside with different pains. Heartache from a broken relationship or a broken heart from the loss of a loved one. We suffer from being let down by someone we’ve really trusted. We struggle with pain of watching a loved one suffer with disease or the pain of seeing your daughter make a bad choice in love.

Now, because the world waits for no one, we smile through all this pain. After all, who cares really? People will still move on with their lives whether we are happy or sad. We have to keep going, smiling through the pain.

Living a lie

When Smokey Robinson says his ‘smile looks out of place’, he’s being true to himself. He’s come to the end of the day and is staring reality in the face. Outside he was masquerading but now he’s realizing his hope is fading. It is always important to come to terms with reality and to know exactly who we are for our own sake and nobody else. Some of us cannot take the truth. We even go to the extent of believing our own lies! We must smile through the pain without forgetting our situation. If our relationship is poor, let’s see it as such. If you are bad at keeping finances for the family, let your wife help you out. No one is good at everything. Don’t pretend that the family is doing OK when you know that you are the reason things are not going well at home. Take a good look at yourself and see that your smile is out of place! And then do something about it. It may be painful to admit (because we all think that we are perfect) but eventually the pain will fade away and your smile will get back in place. The truth always gives birth to freedom.

In conclusion

There is always the comfort that tomorrow is a brighter day. Today may be sad and gloomy but love is waiting on the other side! Admitting that you are bad at running finances gives you the opportunity to learn from someone else without feeling the pressure to prove yourself. When you finally see your mistakes and the number of days you have spent away from your family, denying your children quality family time, it gives you a chance to reconnect with them. When you stop believing in your own lies you start seeing the world in clear colour. Let’s take accurate stock of ourselves for our own sake and that of our loved ones.